Effective Jewish Parenting

The highest standard of the Jewish family and the Jewish education during thousand years provided a survival of people and development of its tradition in the hardest conditions of dispersion and prosecutions. Here result of the close relation to children. This book it is very accessible opens ancient secrets of the Jewish education and, using language of kognitiv psychologies, shows how to solve the basic problems facing to modern family.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

1 BASIS : learn to control your feelings
What makes us fall into a rage ? 3
Intolerance and impatience 4 , Conviction 5 , unbearable frustration and a low threshold of restraint 6
Anger does not give us any advantage 8
How to get rid of anger 11
Concern for the welfare of a child 11 to learn to deal with disappointment 11 , 13 Judge favorably , to distinguish between a child and his behavior 16 , 16 Stress , take their destiny 19
wines 20
Teshuvah : a method to correct the imperfection of the Torah 21 , Slander over 23 prevents the change , only evaluates the behavior of 24 , 27 Implementation of teshuvah , Apologies to children 28 , Interaction of guilt and anger 29 wines from 30 of guilt , feelings of guilt because of the lack of attention 30 Wines, 31, a working mother , Learn to accept yourself 32, 34 A word of warning

2 COMMANDMENTS about reverence and respect for PARENTS
a. The nature of this mitzvah 35
Gratitude 36 Challenges 37 Definition Mitzvah 40 What is honoring 41 What is respect for Obedience 42 43
b . Education of the 44 commandments
Education honoring 44
Education respect 49
Obedience training 50
Work , full of love 51, 51 A sincere respect , Patience 52 52 Moderate requirements , go to the end of 54, 54 Starting from infancy , when the child refuses to obey 51, How to develop the child's ability to listen to 58, 58 Withdrawal of privileges , How to give directions 59, How to make the children came when their name is 61, the child's attention 62, 62 Reminders , Correction and Punishment 62, The Last Word 63

3 remaining firm
Caring for a child happiness 65
65 Happiness , satisfaction of desires 66
Avoiding conflict 68
70 trips for shopping , tantrum 71, 72 Abusive behavior
What will people think ? 73
Feelings of guilt 74
Not selfish I 76 I do not expect I
77 is too much fear of disapproval and rejection of explanations Trap 78 79

4 Praise and encouragement
Education through praise and encouragement 84
As enough 86
Specificity 86 Avoid excessive and inappropriate praise 87, Objectivity 87
Encouraging achievements 88
Pride and fear of error 90
Reward as a method of praise and encouragement 91 Restrictions Awards 93 Awards for Torah study 93

5 DISCIPLINE WITH LOVE
The right and left hand 96
admonition 97
The principles of persuasion 98, 101 How to exhort When repeated observations do not help 104, 105 Responses to comments
punishment 107
Corporal punishment 109 111 Other forms of punishment , punishment Reactions to 114
The natural and logical consequences 114

6 RELATIONS BASED ON UNDERSTANDING
Learning to empathize 117 119 Creating an atmosphere of understanding help the children understand their emotions 125

7 HELP AND ATTENTION
Help 128
The advantages of using 128, support the desire to help young children 129, 131 How to ask for help , show appreciation 132, assignment of responsibilities around the house 133, 137 unwillingness to help , Negligence in the performance of the house 142, 144 Flexibility
attention 146
Education attention 147, Manners 152, 156 Sensibility

8 order and cleanliness .........
Parenting from an early age
What to do with carelessness
Frivolity , carelessness
168 words
Cleanliness and appearance 168

9 RISE AND CLEANING bed
Morning routine 170
Raise children with 172 beds , 172 beds Cleaning , Dressing small child 173 Teaching children to dress themselves 173, 174 Choice of clothes , as an aid Timers 174, 175 When a child is late , when the child goes to a special transport 175
Bedtime 176
Preparing young children for uktadsha NIJ - 177, Procedure for placing older children, 177, How to deal with resistance 178, 179 Incentives

10 JEALOUSY
The zeal of the new baby jealousy among the other 181 children 183 Problems with eating 186

11 QUARREL
190 to remain calm
Eschew quarrels 191
When to intervene 195
Physical aggression 196, quarrels in public and with friends 197 Quarrels with eating 199
Talk quarrels 200
The rivalry between the brothers and sisters of 203, Help for children in the development of tolerance, 204 , Desire to yield 206
reconciliation 208
What to do with 209 offenses , as a method of problem resolution 209 A child who frequently hits 214

12 CRYING
The first few months 218
Pamperedness 220 After six months : 221 night crying When the child gets older 222
What to do with weeping 223 , Conventional types
Wailing 225

13 SCHOOL : HELP DURING TRAINING
Support 233
Bad behavior at school 234
What to do with the complaints of teachers 236
Difficulties in the teaching 236
Achiever 240 , Child, incapable of teaching 241, diligent and intense child 242
Homeworks 243

14 COMMON PROBLEMS
food 245
Avoid food issues 246, 248 fastidious eater , Disease 250, Skinny kid and a fat kid 250
Lying 252
theft 253
Bad Words 255
Riot of 256
shyness 257

NOTES